5 reasons why your boss doesn’t like you

By | August 16, 2010

Do you think your boss does not like you? You may find this hard to hear, but I hope we can shed some light on the common issues that put stress on the employee/boss relationship.

If you really believe that your boss does not like you, the problem may not be with him, it may be with you. For the sake of discussion, he will refer to your boss.

A lot of people think that their boss doesn’t like them and it’s their boss’ problem. I’m sorry to say, but that is rarely the case. If your boss doesn’t like you, he probably has a reason, and it’s probably a good one. Every situation is different, but only one of the reasons I’ve listed below is your boss’ fault.

1. You are late or go missing

Why do people think that others won’t notice if they show up late or disappear for long stretches of time? Nothing gets you a bad reputation faster than when you are constantly late for work or cannot be found for long periods of time. You might think your boss doesn’t notice your 2-hour lunches, but he does. Do it often enough, and you’ll will put a bad taste in his mouth. If your boss, or anyone else for that matter, has said something to you about your time spent in the office, then that should be your first clue.

2. The boss can’t count on you

If you notice that your boss gives more work to your coworkers than he gives to you, this might be your problem. Unfortunately, managers often give their best employees more work because they know they will do it right. If your skills are lacking or you don’t work hard, your boss might not like you because you don’t provide enough value. The process to fire someone can be so painful that managers sometimes leave a bad employee with no work to do rather than try to get them replaced.

3. You talk bad about the boss

You may not like your boss, but act like you do. If you openly speak poorly of him, he will eventually find out. No one likes to be bad-mouthed, and when he hears that you don’t like him or that you talk negatively about him behind his back, it will be a natural reaction for him to dislike you in return. Show him respect and be pleasant, even if you don’t want to.

4. The boss is intimidated by you

A lot of people misidentify this as their situation. It is a rare occurrence, but it does happen. When you are confident and talented, an insecure boss may feel threatened by you. If this really is your situation, then you’re already an all-star and you know that you should work to make your boss feel supported instead of threatened.

5. You make the boss look bad

If your boss is counting on you for something and you don’t deliver, he won’t like you. Frequent mistakes, poor work quality, and lack of ability will not only reflect poorly on you, but it will also make your boss look bad. If you can’t meet your boss’ expectations or don’t want to try, start looking for another job.

Wrapping it up

If you find yourself in a situation where you feel like your boss doesn’t like you, consider a reality check. Be honest with yourself about why this person doesn’t like you, and figure out what you can do about it. If you just cannot reconcile the your differences, there is no shame looking for another job. But remember this, if every boss you’ve had doesn’t like you, the chances are pretty good that you are the real problem, not your boss.